Without getting into a long drawn out explanation.If a man is doing what he is suppose to do in a marriage then there won't be any issues.We are to love our wives as Christ loved the church.I think some males take part of the Bible and try to twist it to their advantage without ever examining exactly what God intended our responsibility to be."As Christ loved the church"think on that for awhile .That is a much deeper statement when you break it down that what it appears to be on the surface.