I don’t think most white and black people agree with you, honestly.

What to do when daughters call into question your view on race.


I personally have views on such topics. I am not racist, but know that most white or black folks agree, that keeping with their own is important for many reasons. How to overcome the flack???? Especially with children??

I want my daughter to marry a man with a heart for God. I'd rather she marry a black man who truly has a heart for the Lord than a white man that doesn't know Christ. Because of the ridicule and racism she'd encounter I hope she finds a person of her own race with those qualities but I'm raising her to look at a person's character before all else.

Because of the mistakes I've seen others make, in regards to being adamant about race staying with race, and the results of the hardline stance they've taken, I've chosen never to speak to my daughter about it. I've watched too many girls with fathers who've preached at them about race rebel and date black men exclusively. I'm convinced that's a result of the father's insistence and the daughter's knowing it's the thing that will sting the most when they decide to rebel. So far, my daughter has figured it out on her own and shown good judgement. She's 14 and likes boys just fine but isn't nearly as boy crazy as most girls her age. I believe that's because she's been allowed to make up her own mind about things , in that regard, and we haven't made it a taboo subject. She also understands her boundaries and knows that the trust she has from her mother and I is something she's earned over a lifetime and if she starts making irresponsible choices she loses that trust she's earned.

I believe the best way to insure your daughter's make good choices is to model the things you want her to look for in a man and to lead them in a Godly manner. If you want to insure they rebel, rule with an iron fist and preach at them about race and they'll do exactly opposite of what you want when they get the first chance. Girls with daddy issues are a dime a dozen and there are just as many that got those issues from an overbearing father as there are from absent fathers.

Whites go with whites.
Blacks go with blacks.
Yellow go with yellows.
Reds go with reds.
Etc.

I’ve got some very good black friends BUT.....I don’t want my kids dating/marrying blacks/browns/yellow/etc.

If that’s considered racist, we’ll then I’m a racist.

I think there’s actually a bible verse that says God separated the races but I don’t recall the scripture.

Yep.
Call me whatever you like. I really don't care.

I have explained to both of my girls that they can be friends with em, but can’t date em. It ain’t happening, and for those that has a good black guy in the family that’s great, I’m proud for y’all, but 90% of the black guys I know that wanna date a white girl and straight up thugs, sorry pos, government babies. Yalls little princess gonna supporting some pandas and they daddy when it’s said and done. Glad them few worked out for y’all.

Red birds stick with red birds, blue birds stick with blue birds

How I was told coming up, how my kids are told. And maybe I’m wrong, but both races can be open to things for a certain time frame, but sometime or another they’ll go back to there roots.

I’ll always love my kids, but that don’t mean I’ll always support em. And with that said, my house my rules! No black boys, and no punk ass, white trash white boys neither.

I don’t think most white and black people agree with you, honestly.

If you believe the Bible and trace mankind’s lineage back far enough I think that you will find that there is only one race. The Bible tells us that Moses married an Ethiopian woman and was criticized by Aaron and his sister for it, personally I believe she was black.

Whites go with whites.
Blacks go with blacks.
Yellow go with yellows.
Reds go with reds.
Etc.

I’ve got some very good black friends BUT.....I don’t want my kids dating/marrying blacks/browns/yellow/etc.

If that’s considered racist, we’ll then I’m a racist.

I think there’s actually a bible verse that says God separated the races but I don’t recall the scripture.

What bothers me is the fact that this line of thinking is not normal? Really? Doesn't mean you are a racist. Might mean you want the best for your daughters. Some days I get up and wonder what world I just got up in.

What bothers me is the fact that this line of thinking is not normal? Really? Doesn't mean you are a racist. Might mean you want the best for your daughters. Some days I get up and wonder what world I just got up in.

I have explained to both of my girls that they can be friends with em, but can’t date em. It ain’t happening, and for those that has a good black guy in the family that’s great, I’m proud for y’all, but 90% of the black guys I know that wanna date a white girl and straight up thugs, sorry pos, government babies. Yalls little princess gonna supporting some pandas and they daddy when it’s said and done. Glad them few worked out for y’all.

Red birds stick with red birds, blue birds stick with blue birds

How I was told coming up, how my kids are told. And maybe I’m wrong, but both races can be open to things for a certain time frame, but sometime or another they’ll go back to there roots.

I’ll always love my kids, but that don’t mean I’ll always support em. And with that said, my house my rules! No black boys, and no punk ass, white trash white boys neither.

Imago Dei = "image of God"

Everyone was made in it. All nationalities. All colors. All kinds.

Aaron and Miriam criticized Moses, and God got mad at them for doing so.

Any verses that I've found that may SEEM like they are anti-interracial marriage are referring to people's beliefs, not their race (example: God's people weren't allowed to marry canaanites, because they worshipped idols). Also, None of those verses would apply to us anyway, we are a different race than the Israelites.

If you're against interracial marriage, then whatever - that's your opinion to which you're entitled.......but claiming the Bible supports that stance is laughable.

To say God was mad at them is an understatement...he gave Miriam Leprosy over her disapproval.

It's always amazing to me when people [incorrectly] use the Bible to defend/support some opinion or action because they "thought they remembered it said something about...." [insert topic], when if you actually read what the Bible says, it's the exact opposite, as is the case here.

If you're against interracial marriage, then whatever - that's your opinion to which you're entitled.......but claiming the Bible supports that stance is laughable.

does the bible support slavery?

also the "in gods image" Does that mean god resembled a cave man?

Just a couple of things from the bible I've been wondering about lately.

does the bible support slavery?

also the "in gods image" Does that mean god resembled a cave man?

Just a couple of things from the bible I've been wondering about lately.

Okay so let's just continue with the culture/mixing train of thought...

Y'all know we have fostered many kids over the past 4+ years. We have adopted and are in the process of adopting more. Most of those kids have been black. As best as I can recall (my memory isn't great) there have been 9 white, 2 Hispanic and 13 black. We have had kids anywhere from a few weeks to over two years. They were/are very much a part of my family and I am fiercely protective of each of them. My biological kids consider them brothers and sisters. Should my wife and I just take in only the pearly white ones and shut the door because (***GASP***) some are darker than others? I mean hell we can't clash cultures because, well, I don't know exactly...I have yet to see a logical reason why not...In my eyes they are children of God and have not done a daggum thing to live in the horrific situations from which they've been rescued. Or is fostering okay but when someone reaches sexual maturity they need to be kicked back over the tracks to their own kind?

I'm sorry (I'm not sorry) but this fires me up just a bit.

Okay so let's just continue with the culture/mixing train of thought...

Y'all know we have fostered many kids over the past 4+ years. We have adopted and are in the process of adopting more. Most of those kids have been black. As best as I can recall (my memory isn't great) there have been 9 white, 2 Hispanic and 13 black. We have had kids anywhere from a few weeks to over two years. They were/are very much a part of my family and I am fiercely protective of each of them. My biological kids consider them brothers and sisters. Should my wife and I just take in only the pearly white ones and shut the door because (***GASP***) some are darker than others? I mean hell we can't clash cultures because, well, I don't know exactly...I have yet to see a logical reason why not...In my eyes they are children of God and have not done a daggum thing to live in the horrific situations from which they've been rescued. Or is fostering okay but when someone reaches sexual maturity they need to be kicked back over the tracks to their own kind?

I'm sorry (I'm not sorry) but this fires me up just a bit.

I am glad Jesus was not a particular on accepting me as some of you are about accepting other people.

I have walked in mcninja and Bamaguitardude (my 1st wife was from Bermuda) shoes.

Our teenage foster daughter asked me what I thought about this topic and this was my response.

1) Color does NOT determine the character of a human being.
2) Culture differences are very real (as BGD) stated. Marriage it tough enough without that daily struggle. The couple better be strong as hell and both sides of the family better be in full support.
3) As this thread has shown, you better be ready for hate, judging, labeling, and shocked faces. You know everything the Bible says we should not do to others.

i speak from experience -- having married inter-racially & been in the marriage for almost 20 years before we divorced -- you will have your damn work cut out for you. My ex was a Brazilian woman, so she was of olive complexion; the differences in "culture" between us was present every single day. It's already hard enough between a man & a woman to complicate a relationship with different cultures/nationality/races/etc.

I'm not telling anybody NOT to do it - nor am I criticizing it - but I damn sure will never do that again. I know what the Bible says about love conquering all - but human love is fickle & incredibly imperfect.

Whites go with whites.
Blacks go with blacks.
Yellow go with yellows.
Reds go with reds.
Etc.

I’ve got some very good black friends BUT.....I don’t want my kids dating/marrying blacks/browns/yellow/etc.

If that’s considered racist, we’ll then I’m a racist.

I think there’s actually a bible verse that says God separated the races but I don’t recall the scripture.

I just want my daughter to date/marry someone that makes her happy and will be a good father/example to my future grandkids. Dont care about color. Why worry about something as simple as skin color.

On a side note, if you think dating someone with a different skin color is wrong, you're a racist plain and simple. No way around it.

but isn't saying that god had his chosen people(jews), actually just a form of racism?

what if a nice muslim black woman makes your daughter happy and was a good example to her adopted or I.F. children?

what if a nice muslim black woman makes your daughter happy and was a good example to her adopted or I.F. children?

There are few ideas that are more IGNORANT than the idea that the color of your skin makes you better than a person of a different color. I personally have no use for such people. The Good Lord will sort it all out in due time!

I think you're really on to something here. It's more about the ideologies that are held by people of the same skin color. As a whole, most black people have different cultural aversion even though they were raised in the U. S.. They think differently about politics, race relations, ideas about the unit of a family structure. I'm working on a crew that has 6 black guys on it over the age of 30. Not a single one of them is married with a family. They are all perfectly content to have 2 or 3 women in their back pocket with no aspirations to get married. I get along well with them all. They all believe our Country is rigged against them. Being compatible in these areas are EXTREMELY important when you are thinking within the context of a male/female relationship.

Yes.

maybe before calling others IGNORANT you should look at how the world and civilization has progressed in some races and not so much in others. I understand your point, but history kind of says otherwise don't it?

pretty sure his post specifically states he wants his daughter to date, and then marry, a man ("someone that would be a good father").....also, pretty much everyone in this thread has differentiated between interracial marriage and interfaith (is that a word?) marriage...

I get that but my point in that post and all the other post's is you basically have folks that say (A)I don't agree with interracial relationships and (B) they're ok with it BUT people who think differently are racist, narrow minded, and ignorant and often use some sort of qualifier (just want children to be happy), as long as it fits their idea of what should be acceptable. To them it's only acceptable to where they draw the line. But if they were truly concerned only with the happines of their children, why is a line drawn period, gender, race, religion, age or nationality?

I’ll specifically call you ignorant. All you like to do is stir the pot in different directions. A lot of the “questions” you pose could easily be answered by yourself if you would simply study and apply simple logic. Maybe you simply aren’t mentally capable of logical deductive reasoning. As far as history I don’t believe there is any one “race” that has achieved everything while another has achieved nothing. But feel free to enlighten me with your infinite “wisdom”.

I’ll specifically call you ignorant. All you like to do is stir the pot in different directions. A lot of the “questions” you pose could easily be answered by yourself if you would simply study and apply simple logic. Maybe you simply aren’t mentally capable of logical deductive reasoning. As far as history I don’t believe there is any one “race” that has achieved everything while another has achieved nothing. But feel free to enlighten me with your infinite “wisdom”.

I won't speak for other folks, but for me, as far as my kids are concerned, my primary concerns are:

1. Their eternal soul
2. Their earthly happiness

Not saying I agree one way or the other but

Not saying I agree one way or the other but

Africa.......

There it is, Mr. Holey Roller in one post and name calling and chit talking in the next when your stance is questioned. Thats real christian of you.

Looks like South Africa

I’ll specifically call you ignorant. All you like to do is stir the pot in different directions. A lot of the “questions” you pose could
I don't think it is unchristian at all. I think it was a factual christian response to a question. Ignorant means lack of knowledge. By asking the questions you do (see lack of knowledge definition) I would surmise that you do lack the study needed since you asked the questions. Just because you don't like his answer doesn't mean he is unchristian. It appears to mean you were intent on baiting someone so you could call out a "christian".

50% of white girls date black guys.
20% think they are gay.
30% date white guys.
Sorry but that’s where we are.
At least in Alabaster, Al.

make your mind up, was i being ignorant or baiting Christians. Also point out his factual response cause i missed it, just like you missed my explanation of my questioning posts. I was the just trying to have a discussion, but you and sleepy frog can't seem to do that without it getting personal and name calling. It's not my fault that yall approached it that way under the "christian" banner.

I would say that those stats are dead on.

You were/are both as was noted. I didn't approach anything under any banner. In fact, I didn't say I was a christian or my feelings on interracial marriage. I was merely pointing out you were ignorant per the definition and I feel confident most on here agree with that.

That said, you know what they say about wresting with pigs, so I will end my replies with you here as it's best for all involved.

what if a nice muslim black woman makes your daughter happy and was a good example to her adopted or I.F. children?

Then she wouldn't be muslim. Same sex relationships are forbidden under Sharia law. Need to try harder.

so you're telling me there isn't any gay Muslims? who are they throwing off roofs and burning in cages. There is also gay Christians.

what if a nice muslim black woman makes your daughter happy and was a good example to her adopted or I.F. children?