No one here knows the real story. You can never really know a person until you live with them. He already feels the shame since he text you again. This is between him & his wife & the Good Lord. We'll all have to answer for our shortcomings one day & I bet you'll have your own list to deal with same as the rest of us. Delete the text, don't tell your wife or anyone else & most important....don't put the story on the internet.

Poontang and big deer drive people to lose their minds

You are in a tough place. I would go talk to my pastor, and do a lot of praying for how to best react.

I found myself in a similar situation several years ago, and in the end I found out that my buddy and I had some major moral differences. I still pray for him but we are now no more than acquaintances.

I couldn't be friends with someone that cared so little for his family. He's not just cheating on his wife. He knows what it could do to his children by wrecking the family and still risks it anyway. I guarantee you he would be with your wife too if he thought he could get away with it. POS.

Paschal it sounds like you're a good friend since you're not just worried about him but his family, as well. I'm the last person to give advice to any grown man about his personal life but I know from experience that IF you choose to talk to him he will not get defensive and you'll have a more helpful and meaningful discussion if you talk to him about him and NOT any certain behavior or actions you think he's engaged in. Asking 'What's going on, I'm concerned about if you're ok', will make much more of a positive friendship oriented discussion than, 'What's you're problem, you cheating idiot'.
No one cares what you know until they know that you care, is a pretty apt saying in personal crisis situations.
Hope it works out well for you and your friends!

Very true words

Damn, you all are a bunch of tattle tales. What someone else does that is not illegal, is none of your business. You are all sitting in judgement of him, projecting your morality on him. What give you that right?

I agree with speaking to him about it and possibly ending the friendship if he will not stop it. But, telling his wife is not going to do anything but end what may be an otherwise good marriage. You are being selfish by wanting to clear your mind because you don't approve.

As I said earlier,

There is more to this story! Maybe they are separating, or even planning for a divorce. Maybe that why she is in Orlando with kids and he is not there.

And I certainly hope all you strong Christians Pray for yourself this Wednesday or Sunday for being so judgmental.

You don't know who I'm talking about. I've never mentioned his name.

I agree and believe that what you had said in subsequent posts about talking to him is the right thing to do. At least you will have a clear conscious.

I would hate to see a family broken because of one of the parties indiscretions; but, it would be very difficult for me to see him and his wife together and my blood not begin to boil if I hadn't spoken to the person about it. I would expect that regardless of whether you talk to him or not, your friendship is in jeopardy.

But to be honest - who needs a friend that you can't trust.

60% of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage (see, Buss and Shackelford for review of this research). And these numbers are probably on the conservative side, when you consider that close to half of all marriages end in divorce (people are more likely to stray as relationships fall apart.

Most of you already have a friend cheating and don't know it. Is he/she now less of a friend?

BTW. I don't cheat on my wife. But I am not blind to the fact that people do.

Well here we go again.

"Hey Trox, please don't let Josh know but yes I'll meet with you. Exit 69 (our favorite number)and the Hancock Inn. Wear the sheep slippers I bought you."

"Oops! Wrong person. Please don't tell Josh."

What a slut whore!!

Post a picture of the wife or drop the subject

My $.02:

Doing nothing is the chickenshat way to handle it.

Tell the wife is putting your nose too far in someone else's business. Your motives will be challenged and will probably lead to losing two friends.

Telling your friend that he is on a very slippery slope that never ends well is the correct and courageous way to handle it. Say your piece and be done with it.

I concur

FIFY

Big bass for money, Turkeys, Poontang and Big Deer ...

Thanks for the help

Thanks Clem

That is very true, and i never said i knew who it was. But what you posted is on the www and all it would take is one person who knows somebody from navarre who has alittle girl, who is in tallahassee this week, while his wife is in Orlando to figure out or make an assumption about who it is.

The world is a small place, and stranger things have happened.