Man does have a point.

More like assless chaps

With that being said me and Whitney are going down there in September

I'd stay out of it. Don't get me wrong, I 100% disagree with what he is doing. However, let him dig his grave and like someone said, the truth will eventually come out. I just don't think you want to be the one that knocks over that first domino.

I'm judgmental. I just didn't post what I was thinking other than if he's truly a friend, a real friend, you can talk plainly, calmly and likely pretty bluntly with him.

I know, and I was being judgmental of the judgmental bastards.

We all know when it comes to the poontang, us men act very differently than we would in any other scenario. If he truly is a friend, then don't know why you are so surprised and I would just have a casual conversation with him and remind him of the consequences and I'm sure he will remind you of the benefits or otherwise explain why he is being driven to this...if you are truly friends. If you are just casual acquaintances, then tell his wife and let her know the best way to get back at him is for her to accept your gift of panties, get a baby sitter and head on over.

What benefits are there to lying, betrayal and adultery?

Poontang? I said the friend will try to explain the benefits and justify why he was driven to this, where did I actually say there were benefits in that post?

I agree and she deserves to know. I say this as a person who has been cheated on and lost everything ( most importantly my kids-4days a month sux) and I have NEVER cheated. Sorry excuse for a human being in my opinion. If he's that unhappy in his marriage divorce her and go for the "greener grass" instead of disrespecting his wife and kid(s)!!!!!!!

It is a no brainer.

If he is a friend and you care about him and his marriage and family are of value to you, then yes you should make time to talk to him. How you decide to talk to him is up to you, but I'd suggest trying to have a calm, plain, blunt but loving conversation with him like Clem suggested too. There will be a story to be told most likely, so be willing to listen. Offer some wise council and then let it go. If by chance you are friends with his wife too, then it makes it more difficult. Pray for some discernment on how to handle the whole situation.

Infidelity is serious business and should not be taken lightly. You don't have to be the moral police or a tattle-tale, but talking with him from a caring perspective is the right thing to do.

I read through this whole thread and was planning to make a response saying what straycat said, but as usual he said it better than I could.

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. Edmund Burke

Once a cheater always a cheater! I would punch him in the gut and then go buy him a cold beer and talk things out.

That is just strange doekiller. A true friend is going to tell you if they know your wife cheating on you whether you want them to or not.

Dude, your in a hell of a spot! Prayers for your right decision.

If they were truly a friend of mine, they would know how I felt about what they are doing.

I would have just deleted the text and not said a word to anybody, mush less post my friends business on the internet for the whole world to see. If he wanted his wife to know he could tell her.

If he wanted to talk to me about it, I would be happy to talk with him, and help in any way I could.

I am in no way in favor of, or think having an affair is OK. But we are all sinners, and my sins are no less than anybody else.

Im glad a bunch of yawl aint my friend. Especially the ones talking about snitching him out to the wife. Yawl dang sure aint much of a friend. And aint none my friends gonna come lecture me about what I'm doing wrong either. He's a grown man. You think he dont know he's doing wrong. Now I agree what he's doing is wrong, but that dont anyone else the right to put on there captain save a ho cape and come to the rescue.

Ethical dilemma for sure.

But, that being said if your wife was out there knocking it out with some other dude while you were at home taking care of your kids, your house, working a job to provide nice things for you, her and your kids and one of your friends had strong evidence that she was cheating on you there is no way that you would be offended by them not telling you...I dont see it.

She comes home and you want a little play time in the same playground that her buddy has been swinging in and you are being the back-up player...you would not have a problem with that?

She kisses you good-bye on your way out the door and as soon as you leave ol' Jody is back in your bed before it has a chance to get cold and you could not care less....

You honestly want to live like that and have your kids in that situation what kind of relationship would you think you really had anyway?

I would hold your friend accountable but not in a condemning way. I think I would make a point to show him everything that he is about to throw away and make him realize what it is he is really about to lose. If doesn't stop then the wife should be made aware of what is going on and let her take it from there.
My guess is that she may already have an idea that something is going on. Someone who cheats thinks that they cover their tracks pretty well, but you know he has slipped up once already. I bet it aint the first time.

I would mind my own buisness, he is you're friend but that is no reason to get involved, I agree it is wrong on his part but at the same time you don't know all of the details, if it's bothering you that bad mention it to him, I wouldn't go behind his back and get his family involved

This thread could be a country song.