I know I’ll take a beating but

A. I think add adhd is probably real and way over diagnosed and used as an excuse and I’ve proven it
B. I wrote the book you’re reading with my middle son until one day I beat his ass until my wife got between us. ADD/ADHD cured instantly and I dared him to call anyone cause when I get outta jail I’d finish what I started

All 3 of my younger boys were diagnosed and medicated for ADD/ADHD when they lived with their mother and were in terrible shape, terrible grades, kicked outta school over and over, disrespectful and general problems. I got custody of them when Austin was 10 and the twins were 7
The meds went away and the leather rolled in. By 9 the twins had completely turned around A students and all in on life, pleasures to be around although slightly hard headed like their mother. Both attended JCIB for Jr high and high school with honors Jt graduated early, Trevor graduates this year on schedule by choice as he to could has easily graduated. Austin was a challenge, better, but always something. He spent a year with nothing allowed in his room he didn’t wear or need to sleep. At 14 he decided to swing at me for “hitting” him with a belt. Belt down, ass whooping is on. Never had a disrespectful moment sense.
Austin is definitely slightly autistic and beyond intelligent read, write and speak 7 languages fluently self taught. Knows more about a computer than bill gates ever did, I’ve got friends who are professional IT guys that called him for help by the time he was 12. He now manages an IT department for the state of Florida and even though we disagree on a lot, we can be friends.
I’d say ass whoopin works

Waiting until mid to late teens to start would probably make things much more difficult but damn if I wouldn’t break a sweat trying

I had similar. Was given a book by a counselor. How to take control of your teenage child. Took some doing but finally worked. Good as gold 15 years later.

No on the GF and add meds. Adderall XR works, but it's been hard to get. I've gotten 3 different scripts, one was vyvanse which works well for me, and he takes 3 or 4 pills and says they don't work. That's part of the issue, if he took it for a few weeks, then it would be easier to tell. But vyvanse isn't a cheap one either.

He wants to be a fireman. He's been to alabaster and they tested him on the physical test, you have 8 minutes to do it and he did it in 4. Beat everyone in the class. They will hire him when he graduates, assuming he does, and will send him to emt/paramedic school, but then I go, how the heck is he gonna pass that if he won't even do school work now?

He thinks school serves no purpose. He doesn't think any of it matters or will help him. I don't know, paying attention in english class and learning how to spell might be useful. Call me crazy. And of course nothing is his fault. Its the terrible teacher. I said, I bet someone in the class has an A.

The ADHD paralysis could be part of it. It would be helpful if he just took his meds.

He thinks school serves no purpose. He doesn't think any of it matters or will help him. I don't know, paying attention in english class and learning how to spell might be useful. Call me crazy. And of course nothing is his fault. Its the terrible teacher. I said, I bet someone in the class has an A.

The ADHD paralysis could be part of it. It would be helpful if he just took his meds.

No he hasn't be tested for Dyslexia. I don't think he has that, he can do well in school if he does his work. I emailed a psychiatrist office, so maybe I can get in and look into that ADHD paralysis. He does well on adderall XR, but... finding it isn't simple.

He no longer has an Xbox. He doesn't have a car either. He has no social life. I told him last night the phone is next if grades don't come up. He sees his GF when she picks him up for school and I presume drives him home or to work. You would think she would get tired of his constantly being grounded. He has a bed, dresser and clothes. He has a computer screen that doesn't do anything. That's about it.

The school has been useless. All the hype about Shelby County Schools being so awesome is BS. My high school was bigger, and we didn't have 2 assistant princpals and like 4 counselors. It's like going to the DMV, you have to go, and you are stuck with what you get.

The real issue is he just doesn't GAF. I don't get it. School now is a cake walk compared to when I went.

I get an email from one of his teachers about him using his phone in class. I said take it away from him. Need me to sign something? I mean the school seems to think I can manage his behavior when I am at work even. I am a single parent. I can't just be running all over god and country every day because he won't get off his butt.


He is so pie in the sky. The real world is going to yank his chain really had.

No he hasn't be tested for Dyslexia. I don't think he has that, he can do well in school if he does his work. I emailed a psychiatrist office, so maybe I can get in and look into that ADHD paralysis. He does well on adderall XR, but... finding it isn't simple.

He no longer has an Xbox. He doesn't have a car either. He has no social life. I told him last night the phone is next if grades don't come up. He sees his GF when she picks him up for school and I presume drives him home or to work. You would think she would get tired of his constantly being grounded. He has a bed, dresser and clothes. He has a computer screen that doesn't do anything. That's about it.

The school has been useless. All the hype about Shelby County Schools being so awesome is BS. My high school was bigger, and we didn't have 2 assistant princpals and like 4 counselors. It's like going to the DMV, you have to go, and you are stuck with what you get.

The real issue is he just doesn't GAF. I don't get it. School now is a cake walk compared to when I went.

I get an email from one of his teachers about him using his phone in class. I said take it away from him. Need me to sign something? I mean the school seems to think I can manage his behavior when I am at work even. I am a single parent. I can't just be running all over god and country every day because he won't get off his butt.


He is so pie in the sky. The real world is going to yank his chain really had.