After reading your first post I felt like I was reading my own post. I had the same issues going on my son's mother. She was making the rules and I was having to play along. I know court cost and lawyer fees can be expensive but it is well worth it. After about 4 years in and out of court things are somewhat normal now. It took a judge telling her she better straighten up or else. I know this process is hard so hang in there.