Originally Posted By: Wiley Coyote
Abide by the terms of the divorce, especially making sure you get your son when the papers say you get him. The longer you let it go with not seeing him, the more "evidence" she has that you don't want to see him. Don't let it get to that point. Take her back to court if it means no hunting lease, no fishing next weekend, disconnect the CATV/high speed internet, etc.. Whatever it takes to save the money to get her in court you gotta decide if your son is worth it. That may sound harsh but it had to be said.


Bingo, best advice yet and I couldn't have said it better. If she continues to fail to live up to the visitation agreement and you do nothing about it, the judge will eventually decide that your son wasn't important enough to you ... Nip it in the bud while you can.

I've been through a bitter divorce and custody battle so I know how bad it sucks to have to deal with her ... Just remember that boy needs you to be present in his life, he needs you to be strong and deal with her anyway, he needs you to stand up and set an example for him of how a man should act when his mother is being a cold bitch from hell.

Best advice I got during my battle was from a friend who had been thru it years earlier and it went something Like this; "Your kids are smart and eventually they will figure out who there mother is. If you try to help them figure it out they will hate you for it."

Never, never, never speak badly about his mother for any reason whatsoever as it will come back and bite you in the butt if you do. Not only that but it will cause your son to suffer more than he has to. If she is feeding him crap about you and you are above reproach, he will figure that out too and it will bite her butt some day ...

I mean really, you gotta put that boy above and beyond yourself in every way. You gotta dig deep and find what you need to be a gentleman and a strong example for him when she is acting the opposite. If you can do that then this boy stands a really good chance of recovering from this devastating situation. You think it's tough on you? It's twice as bad for him


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