I don't have any advice on how/when to pay your support payments.

But I would recommend that you schedule some heart to heart time with your son to talk about visits, phone calls, texts, etc... A boy needs to know deeply and be reminded often that he is loved and adored by his father and that his father desires to spend as much time with him as possible, even if by text or phone call. Your son may already know that, so tell him again just to drive the point home. At age 11, he needs to hear it often. Talk to him about your frustration so that he knows that you desire for things to be as good as possible...without throwing your ex under the bus. I have a feeling you are already doing this, so just do it more.

Take the high road and send the payment as normal. Then do what you need to do to get more concrete visits and conversation time. If that means through the court, then do it.

I can't imagine what you are going through, so my prayers are sent for you, your situation, your son and for your ex-wife--that a happy and good schedule may come about where you son can thrive as best as possible given the split.

"The grass withers, the flower fades, But the word of our God stands forever." Isaiah 40:8

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