Divorce is not the unforgivable sin. Just like anything else, we're to hate the sin, but love the sinner.

Divorce has probably touched someone on this forum in some way or another. Marriage is a very serious covenant. Just like any other sin, God hates all sin. As has been stated, we must be very careful when we judge others. We are allowed to judge based on God's Holy Word. We are not allowed to judge based on what our "moral standards" or opinions might be (unfortunately,that's the way many of us judge, and yes, I have been guilty. God can forgive us of this also).

I know and have talked to divorced friends and family. Many of them have expressed how they feel they have been mistreated by members of their churches since their divorce. One friend of mine was even asked to leave his church. Another relative said she was shunned after her divorce and members of her church would not speak to her. She left that church and found another church where the congregation took her in and loved her. She is still a member of that church and is a faithful worker. I don't understand this. People who have divorced, even for reason's we may not think are biblical, need our love and forgiveness. As lost sinners, for those of us who have become followers of our Lord and Savior, our Father in Heaven forgave us for our sins, and continues to do so when we ask for forgiveness when we sin (1 John 1:9). With this in mind, shouldn't we be willing to forgive? The Bible says we should (Matthew 19:21-35). I believe that when we forgive others, that is when we are most like our Savior.

Marriage is hard work. The Bible gives us guidelines as to our roles as husbands and wives. I believe divorce happens, not because of all the problems that we may have with each other in our marriages, but because we don't have the relationship with our Lord and Savior that we should. When we step outside that relationship or neglect that relationship, our other relationships are going to suffer. Old Mr. Satan knows when we go through these times and he ups the attacks and temptations on us, wanting us to fall away from what we know is right. He knows that when lost folks see a Christian fall, he has the ammo he needs to keep those folks in his camp.

This post is a very simplistic reply to the question that was posed. I've been married 26 years and it has been hard work. Even though I married a godly woman, and I work hard to be godly man, we still have our fusses and fights. Neither of us has ever been unfaithful in the physical sense(other than I know have have lusted after other women, and we know what Jesus said about that), but I've learned to never say never. I would hope through any difficulty, trial or temptation we might face, that we would be able to work through it and remain together. I admit I have stepped out of my relationship with Christ (what many refer to as "backslide") and at those times, I've put my marriage on trial. Fortunately, I have a wife who loves me very much and she has been able to forgive me. With her patience, forgiveness and prayers, I've been able to return to the relationship with my Lord and to the relationship with her that God designed for us.

With all that said, it's easy to find fault with others and especially with our spouses at times. And as a husband, it's easy to get biblical on my wife about her duties as a wife. Then, just when I think I have a winning point, I always end up being convicted when I remember or she points out what is said about how husbands should love their wives; "even as Christ loves the church." (Ephesians 5:22-33).

As stated in my first sentence, let's hate the sin, but love the sinner. We may want to believe there is a hierarchy of sin, but that's what we want to believe. Sin is sin to God, and even though we may not want to believe it, a lie (even a small white lie) is just as bad as murder. God hates all sin and as His children, we should also. Thankfully, all of these sins can be forgiven. Only the one sin, blasphemy of the Holy Spirit (which boils down to the rejection of Jesus as the Savior) is unforgiveable by God. That's the sin that will send unbeliever's (lost sinners) into an eternal hell.

"Said I never had much use for one; never said I didn't know how to use it".
-Matthew Quigley in "Quigley Down Under"