All I know is this. When we first got my adopted daughter, we both worked and we paid a LOT of money for what I think were sub-par day cares. No offers of subsidies to offset the cost. No nevermind it's foster care. It was hard to find any daycare, much less a good one. And they were damned expensive. Mortgage expensive. No help. No subsidies. No taxpayer assistance. We had to pay, I think because we are white we weren't even offered the discount. So I hunkered down and worked a little harder than I wanted to at that age to make the extra money to provide for my family.
I didn't choose to make the child.
I wasn't irrisponsible.
I did the right thing.
And I paid dearly for it.

So, for all those making babies for benefits, having accidental pregnancies, thinking of aborting, child abusers, child neglectors, government officials who are thieves, advantage takers and delinquents. F.U.

Character is not developed in moments of temptation and trial. That is when it is intended to be used.