She's having trouble doing stuff like just standing there staring at her closet but will not get dress. She did not get to the toilet and crapped in the floor in front of it. Just seat on the toilet looking around. Could not get her to clean it up or herself. Took me 6 hours to get her and the floor cleaned up. She got the worst of it up and I finished. Got her in shower and she seat on a stool and bathed. But still had mess on the back of her legs. She got out of the tub went to the back bathroom and seat on that toilet and would not get dressed. I finally got her to put on a diaper and sleeping top. She eating now but she's having good days bad days. Gonna take her to her gp Monday unless tomorrow is worse then er.
Check into a memory care facility. That is where my dad was for the last month of his life after my mom accepted that she couldn't keep taking care of him (he refused to wear a diaper and would pee in the closet instead of the toilet and quit taking showers or baths). I had a hard time with it and Dad and I weren't even that close (it was my own thoughts about nursing homes and not wanting to go to one), but I did go to the facility with Mom to look at it and it was nice (pricy, though - I think Mom paid $5K per month and this was in Tyler, TX). But memory care facilities have locks so the patients cannot get out of the building, they have staff who will be sure that the are bathed adequately and will put her in an adult onesie of sorts that fastens in the back so she can't just take her clothes off whenever she wants.
It sounds like she may need more care than someone who just comes a few hours three days a week, though. At home care will likely be more costly than a memory care facility, but if you have the means and know it would be her preference and yours and it would be doable as far as her attitude, etc. there are people who do that, too.
