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What to do when daughters call into question your view on race.


I personally have views on such topics. I am not racist, but know that most white or black folks agree, that keeping with their own is important for many reasons. How to overcome the flack???? Especially with children??

I don’t think most white and black people agree with you, honestly.

What are the many reasons that are so important?

Oh boy, here wee go again.

Purebred Black skin people are mostly a thing of the past and purebred Whites are going the way of the dinosaur pretty quickly also. My good hunting and fishing buddy has a daughter that married a Black guy. At first he was completely distraught, but time has shown that he is a great guy, truly loves his daughter and takes good care of his family. He is also a man of God that leads a flock as he presents his sermon every week. My own daughter is married to a great White guy but I would have been just fine if she had married a guy like him. White, black, brown, red or yellow, there are stereotypes and there are people that rise well above the stereotypes associated with their race. As far as the flack goes, that is a dwindling issue as mixed kids are becoming more the norm than the exception.

A person investigating their family heritage discovered that their grandfather who was in prison for robbery. While in prison engaged in a crime against nature (homosexual acts) and was given 7 more years in prison. The person was aghast at such an archaeic law poor grandpa. I say yes archaeic indeed Biblical.

here we go...

I would like for my daughter to marry a white MAN. There it is, I said it.

In before lock down

Just tell them the truth

Whites go with whites.
Blacks go with blacks.
Yellow go with yellows.
Reds go with reds.
Etc.

I’ve got some very good black friends BUT.....I don’t want my kids dating/marrying blacks/browns/yellow/etc.

If that’s considered racist, we’ll then I’m a racist.

I think there’s actually a bible verse that says God separated the races but I don’t recall the scripture.

I've really never understood the hate against interracial marriages. I would think you would want your kid/kids to marry some one who cares about them and who will take care of them. I could understand why you wouldn't have wanted your kid to marry a black person back when they didn't have as many rights as white people and were judged by the color of their skin, so things like finding a good job and affording a house were difficult.

But now a days, Black men and women have the same rights as white people so none of that should be an issue. So the only reason I could think a person wouldn't want their kids to marry a black person is 1. They don't find black people attractive, and they want their kids to marry some one who meets their standards of beauty. 2. They do not like the way mix kids look and do not want ugly grand kids. 3. anything other than the first 2 things I stated have to do with prejudice feelings or thoughts.

Do you love her enough to accept her choices? If not, you may lose her. If she was raised to make wise decisions and know what kind of “persons” to stay away from, then skin color doesn’t matter. Simple as that. In my profession, I work with persons from every background you could think of, and luckily, they are all great people.

I regularly find that people would rather they're kids be homosexuals than marry someone that is a different color

In my youth I was of a different opinion but as I’ve aged and become a dad I have changed on many levels. I want my kids to make good choices and eventually marry someone who makes them happy walking in the path that God intended and instructed us to do. I stay more concerned about meth, crack, and a whole litany of evils that my kids may encounter than I do skin color. History tells us that Jesus wasn’t white like me. God created us all in his image. Some Christians lean on the “equally yoked” verbiage from the Bible to divide races but it’s my belief that God meant that to refer to two people equally following Gods laws and in an intimate walk with him. That’s just the way I see it.

I'm guessin you ain't heard from a lot of black women . From my life's opinion black males could care less but black women have a problem with it.
Google, mud shark . There's your reason

I have 2 very young sons. To be honest I worry much more about them getting involved with the wrong crowd, getting into drugs, street violence etc than bringing home a black woman. I admit that it’s not what I had in mind and would be an adjustment for me but there are way worse things that can happen to a mans children than bringing home somebody from another race.

Because of your approach, what you are trying to avoid is probably what you are going to get.

My daughter is the same way and thinks I am a racist. I do not a have a problem with the other races as a whole. I do want her to stay in her race when she starts to date. Who wouldn’t. But, the “quota “ ones that have used the system and been handed jobs, given preferential treatment, and not disciplined at work for fear of them screaming racism I despise. Just left a job where we had a black woman that was gay. 20 plus years on the job. She could get away with direct insubordination to anyone in the plant without getting in trouble. She played both cards daily and very good too. Lgbqtlmnop is against the Bible, period. If that makes me a racist against them, so be it.

I want my daughter to marry a man with a heart for God. I'd rather she marry a black man who truly has a heart for the Lord than a white man that doesn't know Christ. Because of the ridicule and racism she'd encounter I hope she finds a person of her own race with those qualities but I'm raising her to look at a person's character before all else.

Because of the mistakes I've seen others make, in regards to being adamant about race staying with race, and the results of the hardline stance they've taken, I've chosen never to speak to my daughter about it. I've watched too many girls with fathers who've preached at them about race rebel and date black men exclusively. I'm convinced that's a result of the father's insistence and the daughter's knowing it's the thing that will sting the most when they decide to rebel. So far, my daughter has figured it out on her own and shown good judgement. She's 14 and likes boys just fine but isn't nearly as boy crazy as most girls her age. I believe that's because she's been allowed to make up her own mind about things , in that regard, and we haven't made it a taboo subject. She also understands her boundaries and knows that the trust she has from her mother and I is something she's earned over a lifetime and if she starts making irresponsible choices she loses that trust she's earned.

I believe the best way to insure your daughter's make good choices is to model the things you want her to look for in a man and to lead them in a Godly manner. If you want to insure they rebel, rule with an iron fist and preach at them about race and they'll do exactly opposite of what you want when they get the first chance. Girls with daddy issues are a dime a dozen and there are just as many that got those issues from an overbearing father as there are from absent fathers.