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Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month #2902292
09/12/19 09:17 AM
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If you get to see your kids every day, and see them grow up consider your self lucky.

I see my soon 4 days out of a month, its been like this since he was 1, its hard. He is in 3rd grade now and his grades and behavior is getting worse and worse. Hard to be the disciplinary when you don't see him.

Its hard. Like I said be thankful.


I love the rut. The woods are like a bunch of roided up meatheads fighting over a girl.
Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902297
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I really do feel for you, Buck. I luckily got custody of my daughter when she was three and
happily my ex hasn't seen her in over 15 years.


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Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: MarksOutdoors] #2902299
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Originally Posted by MarksOutdoors


I really do feel for you, Buck. I luckily got custody of my daughter when she was three and
luckily my ex hasn't seen her in over 15 years.



I pay Child Support, and the child is not even staying with his mother..


I love the rut. The woods are like a bunch of roided up meatheads fighting over a girl.
Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902326
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Been there and your right it sucks. I would plan my vacation around getting my kids along with school breaks


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Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902341
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Originally Posted by buck_buster
Originally Posted by MarksOutdoors


I really do feel for you, Buck. I luckily got custody of my daughter when she was three and
luckily my ex hasn't seen her in over 15 years.



I pay Child Support, and the child is not even staying with his mother..


Child support is understandable. Maybe being away from mom is a good thing. Enjoy your 4 days and make the most of them like I'm sure you are

Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902345
09/12/19 10:12 AM
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I don't know how some of you guys do it. I can't stand the thought of not seeing my boys for a period of time. It's one thing that I can say I don't take for granted is my kids. I'd go crazy if I couldn't be with them and I know that they could be gone in a millisecond if life for me took a turn.

Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902361
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I feel your pain. I have 2 boys and a girl. The boys are 8 and 4 years older than the girl. Wife decided she didn't want to keep the family together when my little girl was 5. We had such a great father/daughter relationship. Long story short I took custody of the 2 boys and she took the girl. Distance and time gradually eroded mine and daughters relationship. We still love each other but I missed out on so many things as she grew up. She's 26 now and getting married. My biggest regret in my life is not being able to be a day to day Dad for her.

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Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902369
09/12/19 10:34 AM
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There aint a feeling in the world like that. I been there. And no one can understand until they themselves live it.

I knew a Vietnamese man once.

He was my landlord when i rented. We would talk a lot.

He said he moved here when he was young. He said this country is the only country where we cater to women ridiculously. Eveything is about women. They are legally set up to win everytime. He is absolutely right. The women know this and take advantage of it.

A woman can marry a man, have his kids. Sit at home for years banging jody while her Joe is breaking his back to pay for her things, home and all. If she gets caught, what happens? Poor Joe loses his wife, kids, house and all his crap. Then has to give his pay check to the skank. So basically she can do whatever she wants to do and she knows it. THIS is modern day america.

Im not talking about all women. I never been divorced but came very close. It amazes me how some women can have no conscience too. Probably because society and government caters to them. Its sickening if you think about the scenerio above. I have seen that old story more than enough.

Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902375
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That’s awful man! Couldn’t imagine not seeing mine everyday. Praying for ya buddy



Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902435
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I was there briefly and I feel your pain. This board would be a good place for a fathers rights group to start as there are some good men on here and the state of Alabama is really biased. The only way it will ever change is if men stand up and push for legislative changes. I think the default guidance in the state is if under 5 mother automatically gets full custody and the father 4 days a month and 8 hours at Christmas or that is what I remember from my bout with this in 2015.


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Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902441
09/12/19 11:43 AM
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There are a lot of us on here who know what you are going through and empathize with your pain. The system is rigged for us dads and there is nothing anyone can do about it. Best thing I have found that can be done is spend every second with them that you can and always let them know they are loved. I tell mine every single time I am with her that if I could see her every day I wouldn't miss the opportunity. It is an unfortunate part of life my friend.


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Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902452
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Thank you all. I know I am not alone. I didn't post for pity, just hurts when you can not be the father you know you can be.


I love the rut. The woods are like a bunch of roided up meatheads fighting over a girl.
Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: sj22] #2902459
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Originally Posted by sj22



That’s awful man! Couldn’t imagine not seeing mine everyday. Praying for ya buddy


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Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902477
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Out of wedlock childbirth and divorce is killing this country.

Fatherless children and children with part time fathers (even when no fault of the father who the mother divorced) have created
a massive social problem in this country.

Here is a news article that speaks about this problem.
The media and politicians RARELY address this problem.

https://www.foxnews.com/opinion/mis...-of-mass-shooters-come-from-broken-homes


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Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902483
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I thank the Lord Jesus for every day I have with my family. Had he not intervened in our lives, I would be on the same program as you, if I was still alive and not in prison. A mans parental rights in alabama are a joke to say the least. If you are clean, have a good job, and are paid up on your child support, I would see about hiring a lawyer and doing whatever it took to get a fair amount of time with the boy. It wont be cheap for sure but it would be worth it.

Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902487
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Another thing that bothers me is when the ex wants to use the kids like they are a pawn or something. Mine figured out real quick that I wasn't going to play that game. They know how much our kids mean to us and try to use them anyway they can.


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Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902492
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Got to be tough for sure I cant imagine. I have custody of my twins and I about go crazy when they are gone to their moms for more than a night or two. Hang in there.

Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902495
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What I want to know is how much drugs did those of you dads that have full custody have to plant in order to get this said custody... but for real I am happy for those of you that have this. The state of Alabama needs to get with the program and allow those that are not dead beat dads to have more parental influence.


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Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: 87dixieboy] #2902499
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Originally Posted by 87dixieboy
What I want to know is how much drugs did those of you dads that have full custody have to plant in order to get this said custody... but for real I am happy for those of you that have this. The state of Alabama needs to get with the program and allow those that are not dead beat dads to have more parental influence.



I know that is right.......... Let me know how...


I love the rut. The woods are like a bunch of roided up meatheads fighting over a girl.
Re: Hard to be a daddy 4 days a month [Re: buck_buster] #2902511
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I feel your pain. I have custody of my oldest daughter and the ex has my younger one. I cherish the small amount of time we have together and try not to dwell on the quantity. I have a pastor that recommended the Resolution for Men book/class. I’ve started reading it this week and pray that I can open my heart to whatever God wants to show me. God bless you brother

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